111. Mother-Daughter Journey: What I Forgot to Say … or, What I Repressed
I posted my previous blog and realized that I was carrying around some information that I buried. I received this information shortly after my mother entered the hospital a little over a week ago.
Because my mother has a pelvic fracture, and due to the fact that the x-rays were not clear, a sonogram was performed. That’s when the position of the fracture was revealed. And then someone at the hospital called me to add that a mass was found on my mother’s ovary. They wanted to follow-up with tests. Probably do a biopsy. This info was shared with my mother before it was shared with me.
My mother was overwhelmed. She turned off.
My response was:
My mother is ninety-nine years old, soon to be one hundred. There will be no tests. No biopsies. No.
And I doubt she has been to a gynecologist in years, so whatever is there is there. It hasn’t killed her yet.
Let her be, she has enough to think about.
And still this woman wanted me to know that my mother had to be followed-up by a gynecologist. My mother who is unable to stand without pain. My mother who is unable to walk. My mother who is likely not going to live that much longer, can take whatever is in her, with her.
What is buried deep within my mother became a thought that was buried deep within me.
No more.
This series starts here:
Part 1: And The Band Played On … a mother’s life, a daughter’s journey
The previous post is here
The next post is … here
You know what is best for your family. Stick to your guns. Hugs.
Good decision. Leave it be.
I’m becoming very worried for you Sue. I’m worried that all of this is going to take a terrible toll on your health.
You are right to tell them no more! She does not need to be subjected to the humility of a pelvic examination and whatever else they want to do just to cover their own asses.
Be strong my friend, there are many of us out here who love you and are praying for you and your mother.
Yes, she is almost 100! She has no pain from it! Let her be!
Love to you and your Mother,so sad for me to take all this in,the sadness is bad for me this time of year.I caregived 11hours today and I wanted to read up see how your Mother and you were doing.Ifeel so bad for your Mother also,it is hard to read no matter what age a person is this news.very,very sad.I do hope she has much comfort and care during tis awful time.God be with you and her
OMG…. Doctors are so afraid of being sued. Love to you and her!! I hope her pain is managed well!!! (((Hugs))) ❤️😘
No more pain. For her and for you.
Hugs to you and your mom… all the love you need.