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268→Husband Journey: Save — 5 Comments

  1. Once again I feel a deep sadness for you but at the same time a great admiration for your ability to put your thoughts ‘to paper’ as you do. In the same position, there are many who would never be able to cope with the experience you have and are, living through. I have listened to people who have husbands/wives/families suffering from dementia/Alzheimer’s and it’s heartbreaking especially when they haven’t been able to visit their loved ones during this nightmare of a pandemic. Sadly the illness intensifies when the victims are isolated from their families. Your description of Robert’s ‘hoarding’ is remarkable and I have an urgent wish for you to set up a foundation in his name where archives, artifacts, his treasures can be viewed and appreciated by the public forever. Occasionally we come across people in life who should be remembered for generations – Robert is one of them. Sue, even though your journey has been long and hard, we are never given more than we can handle. The last sentence I wrote is maybe not what you want to hear but I know from experience that when life gives you bitter lemons, you develop a strength that you never knew you had. Writing is your way of coping and that will help someone who is going through the same or similar experience. Be brave and know that you are well-loved.

  2. Wow. Let’s talk about saving his educational materials. I just donated some of my grad school notes. Let’s see if we can have a Kalish archive somewhere other than your basement or a rented storage unit.

  3. ~From Facebook~

    Melissa Dent
    Perfectly said! Wow Sue you write beautifully…so touching xoxM 😻

    Deborah R. Cotterman
    Once again I am crying and so grateful to you for putting all of this into words.

    Jeanette M. Detert
    Your memories will always be with you. Yes, save a few things. I know my time with my Mom is a different emotion than a husband and wife. All the paperwork I would discard. It was what he loved but no use to him now. Maybe ask the college if they would like some of his things they might like to have a history of the college.

    I still have bags of Mom’s I need to sort. Lots I did throw out- clippings for recipes out of magazine’s most sites have that same recipes.

    I wish you and son a power to work it through. It took a lifetime to collect so it’s going to take time. We had to make sure Mom did not hide money in a lot of her things.

    Cookie Tager
    Your keen power of observation, indomitable inner strength and soaring lyrical sadness will carry the pain of the queen and the slowly disappearing king to all those who admire you, support you and keep you close. I am listening, dear Sue.

    Kate Bade
    I feel your struggle.
    I do not have words.
    It was easier to be in her world than mine. My job was to hold a safe space for her as she navigated between here and there….by her own admission in her Alzheimer’s she knew and didn’t.
    Less was more in conversation as she could not take in more than she remembered or believed to be true.
    All my love to you and with you.

    Susan Anne Louer
    I think of you!

    Barbara Schettini-Burton
    Susan I am speechless

    Mara Lane
    Thinking of you

  4. Such poignancy. What a gift you have for expressing the inexpressible…it is beyond painful to witness one’s loved one go down the rabbit hole inch by inch and come to the realization that you are now your own partner…I love how artistic he was, perhaps his handiwork would best survive by photos. I feel for you. 💖

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