catfishred wrote on Sep 21, ’10, edited on Sep 21, ’10

For many years I was ‘killing me softly too’, being an actress/model/folk performer. I worried over every ounce, every blemish, every broken nail and later, wrinkle, wrinkle, wrinkle. What horrible baggage. I’m just beginning to let go of it – NOW – in my middle-age. And it’s so hard, Suz, but so very courageous. It took a big MAJOR step to show my ‘Happy Li’l Nincompoops on Holiday’ video. Okay, laugh if you will. I don’t mind. I always loved character acting and just clowing around. But to expose myself in mid-life has been a wholesome challenge since I’m uber sensitive about my looks.
Many of my ex-model friends are fat or with damage from anorexia, et al. Performers I know still can’t grow up, though it is fun to have fun but not dress the teener when you only look like a tart. Yes, there’s an art to growing older as a woman, to love yourself and allow others to love you for who you are, not what you wish you still were. Good thoughts here. LuvU

forgetmenot525 wrote on Sep 21, ’10

still only half way through no 2……………could be here for a while
thanks for this Sue….. 🙂

sanssouciblogs wrote on Sep 21, ’10

It’s kind of mesmerizing! I’ll go get you some tea and a snack!

forgetmenot525 wrote on Sep 21, ’10

It’s kind of mesmerizing! I’ll go get you some tea and a snack!

thanks, almost there …….

greenwytch wrote on Sep 21, ’10

a whole lot to think about there. thanks!

forgetmenot525 wrote on Sep 21, ’10

Thanks for posting this Sue, there is so much here to think about. I couldn’t stop with the videos you posted, I just had to watch some of the ones shown at the bottom when the videos finished. really powerful stuff here. I especially like the idea of reversing the roles in some of the ads, if the roles are reversed you can see how awful they are.
It took me a while to get through the whole lot but well worth the effort, thanks.

sanssouciblogs wrote on Sep 21, ’10

YES! The role reversal segment, awesome. Makes ya thing, boy are we women destroying ourselves in the name of doing being what we think society expects of us–what men expect of us.

nemo4sun wrote on Sep 21, ’10

all i can say on this isamen

wait….hold on…..

AMEN!

i think every teenager should see this
i have gotten on my soapbox before on this one
and will not go on again
she states it all very well
one of the hardest thing to deal with in raising my daughter was dealing with this stuff
we wonder why other countries ban our advertising

🙂

gileson wrote on Sep 21, ’10

My daughter was a model for many years and took a great deal of pride in what she did. She was well trained and felt very proud of what she did. She said she thought she knew how a professional athlete would feel.I asked her if she felt she was exploiting her body. She said, “I’m not advertising my body. Nobody in that room is going to buy my body, you can rest assured of that. But they might very well buy the dress that is on my body. That makes my employer very happy, and when my employers is happy, I am happy. When the night is over, I put on my jeans with the knees torn out, a baggy sweat shirt and go have a drink with my friends. Just a job.”

Most of the men I know can’t even remember seeing ads for lingerie in Sports Afield or Guns and Ammo, and usually leave the room for a beer break when those ads are on TV, especially the feminine hygiene ads.

There doesn’t seem to be a lot of demand for burhkas, at least where I live, although I see a lot Muslin women in public with the veil wrapped all around their heads and shoulders while wearing a T Shirt and tight jeans. A compromise, I suspect.

At least the women in the ads and the people for whom the ads appear have a choice in the matter. They can change the channel, protest to the manufacturer, boycott the product.

I will jump on this bandwagon immediately as soon as Japan quits killing thousands of whales and dolphins every year and Canada stops clubbing baby seals to death. That is also a choice for those doing the exploiting. The exploited in these cases have no choice.

starfishred wrote on Sep 21, ’10

I have been saying this for umteen years 🙂

gileson wrote on Sep 22, ’10

In a spirit of compromise, I gathered together several of my friends who are all ex-models to give you a preview of what we hope will the be the new fashion trend for 2011.

sanssouciblogs wrote on Sep 22, ’10

Hahahaha, good for cleaners!!!