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Part 7: The Sickening Secrets of Florida Rehabs — 6 Comments

  1. While reading the entire series it seems like there have been a few kind people. Just not enough of them. The mouth care thing is a pet peeve of mine. It seems to get forgotten unless care givers are reminded. I often wonder how often they brush their own teeth!! This is not just in one place but anywhere I have worked for the past 38 years.

  2. With my mother, she got dizzy, likely due to blood pressure that is erratic, and she fell and fractured her arm.

    These stories are so sad, Dani, send my best to our friend. This is a dreadful story. This is what they call the squeezed generation: us folks who are taking care of the generation before and after. By the time we are finished there is nothing left of us. That poor woman shouldn’t be in this situation; I feel sorry for her family, it’s dreadful. It just goes to show that this is a universal problem.

    Believe me I worry about being alone one day and in such a position.

  3. My friend the china painter who illustrated one of your poems is living a similar odissey with her mum. About 4 months ago her 86-year-old, up to then independent mother fell and broke her femur. She was taken to hospital and had surgery. My friend flew all the 1000 km to Sicily, where her mother lives, and stayed with her first at the hospital (3 weeks) then back to her mum’s home (1 1/2 months), until she found a good, reliable live-in carer she could trust her mother with and finally returned home to her husband and son, having aged 10 years in the meantime.
    Ten days ago, nothwithstanding the live-in’s constant care, the mother fell again on the operated leg and had to be taken to hospital again. The nightmare is back. The live-in and my friend’s brother have taken turns with the mother at the hospital then at home. He has reached the end of his tether, having a full-time job he can’t leave and the live-in isn’t managing on her own. So my friend is leaving again for Sicily to lend a hand – and waste more precious family life and money. Her mum is a bit like yours: never leaving home without make-up, always prettily coiffed and wearing her best clothes. Now she is utterly dependent and has to forgo her dignity. Plus she’s demented.
    My friend sends her love and sympathies. Her message is: Don’t let go.

    • With a lot of elderly women, the sequence is: they break the neck of the femur (hip joint) and then they fall. The broken bone is often the cause, not the result, of the fall.

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